Dealing
with a difficult teenager can sometimes push even the calmest of parents to
breaking point. However it is important to try and take a step back and
remember that there are a number of factors that can contribute towards this
challenging behaviour. Some of these factors can include heightened hormones,
body changes, peer pressure and their growing need for independence.
To
help your teen cope with their emotions and to help you deal with their
difficult behaviour in a more constructive way, here are a few tips form a Sixth Form College in London…
Take
time out to listen
Making
time to listen to your child is the best way to understand what is going on in
their world and what could be causing your child’s behaviour. Do they have
problems at school? Do they have issues with friends? Are they worried about
something? – Try to set aside some valuable alone time and let them know that
you are always there to listen and to help.
Let
them make choices
It
is important to show trust and let your teenager make their own choices and
allow them to learn from mistakes (to an extent). Teenagers are often battling
for more independence and it can help your relationship to let them explore
this, as long as you feel that they are safe.
Set
fair boundaries
It
is important to have boundaries and for your child to respect them. After all,
they will need to adhere to certain rules throughout their life, such as at
university or at work. Explain that it is ok to feel anger and frustration,
however there are unacceptable ways of expressing it. Be firm that if certain
boundaries are crossed then they will lose certain privileges.
Give
them space
As
much as it can be hard to notice your child spending less time with you, it is
important to allow them to have their own space. Teenagers need time alone to
explore their own interests and grow. This space and privacy needs to be
respected by all the family, but it is also important to ensure that you still
spend time together.
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